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Have you ever had a threesome or is it all just a fantasy?
We haven’t yet had a threesome (or been with another couple) but that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s all just fantasy. For example, we got each other tantric massages for our birthdays as a stepping stone in that direction.
We love each other deeply and neither of us “needs” to have a threesome or be with another couple. Rather, we see having a threesome or being with another couple as yet another way of giving pleasure to our partner. Hence the tantric massages. We felt it was the safest way to explore adding someone outside of our relationship to the mix for the pleasure of the other.
For Her massage, He organized everything including setting up our bedroom to have the right ambiance and atmosphere for the experience. He was very thorough and diligent at making sure She would be safe and comfortable with the masseuse behind closed doors. She had a wonderful experience and She found the idea of someone besides Him touching Her sex exhilarating. She was nervous and a little anxious about it, but reminded herself that He organized this for Her and committed herself to enjoying the experience as much as possible. He also had to remind Himself that He organized this for Her as He felt a sharp momentary “sting” of what might be described as a combination of jealousy, anxiety and insecurity as He heard the sounds of the conclusion of the massage emanating from behind our bedroom door. The experience was good; it allowed us to experience some of the feelings that may arise in reality with a threesome or another couple.
For His massage, She organized it with someone that had her own studio. Although She was not able to hear what was going on, She knew what was possible, including that He may be touching another woman (it was stated that light touching was allowed). Like Him, She had questions about how the massage went and was actually surprised (and a little disappointed because She had prepared herself mentally for it) that He didn’t touch the masseuse at all.
Since then, we do go back and forth a bit with the whole idea and it’s mainly because there is nothing more important than our relationship. We want to always protect it. We recognize that there is a risk in opening our relationship for this experience. There are also many things to consider and having young children doesn’t make it any easier.
That said, we find that we are now at the point of “let’s just do it” because we have been talking and fantasizing ourselves in circles so much that it has actually become a little frustrating. We do also believe that we are strong enough in our relationship to heal if it proves to be less than a positive experience.
We’re also not sure if it’s something we would do once we’re married. So in that sense, the sooner the better.
Lastly, it sounds easier than it really is. We stated early on that we are not into swinging, but are now considering that it may be easier to have a threesome with another couple (not pairing off and not having the guys do anything to each other) than finding the right single person. There is also the matter of keeping things as safe as possible. Ideally we would find a couple just like us: focused on their relationship and family with similar experience that is also drug and disease free. A single person would ideally be similar in experience and also drug and disease free. Needless to say, we wouldn’t want a pregnancy resulting from this experience.
We hope that answers your question, anon. Even though we haven’t been there, per se, it is far more than just a fantasy.